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Despite what I’ve said above, I, too, am a “why” person at heart. I always want to know the “whys” and “wherefores” of everything.

And as you say, Brad, it certainly is possible to ask “why” questions in a sensitive and sympathetic manner that doesn’t cause defensiveness but rather helps the other individual explore new possibilities and expand current horizons. Yet, this is a rare skill–one that requires real wisdom, maturity, and empathy. Likely (in those situations where someone’s ego is at stake, at least), most of us would do better to ask more “what” questions, which can often lead us to the “whys.” We can then begin adding a few “what if” questions to lead the other person to new revelations.

In a less volatile emotional atmosphere, though, “whys” can be a fantastic way of getting to the heart of an issue, dissecting, analyzing, and learning from it.

Just a few personal thoughts on a highly subjective topic. Every situation, person, and relationship is different–which is precisely “why” coming up with a universal principle can be so difficult.

I like your idea, Luke, of identifying people by which question works best for them. That would undoubtedly provide real insight into other people’s–as well as our own–personality types and operating styles!

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I am definitely a why person. If you ask me “how can we?” I will answer that it depends on what our long term goals are – why we are doing it.

I wonder if we could identify people by which question works for them (why, how, when, what, who) kind of like Type A or ENFJ.

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